Getting older sucks.....
As a child I know I looked at my parents as they could no no wrong. Then as I got older, moved out, got married etc..... I began to see faults. Believe me it was hard to see and even understand. When your parents do something that hurts you when you are a child you are expected to suck it up and respect them. What about when you are hurt by your parents when you are an adult? Is it appropriate to set a boundary or do you continue to suck it up? I prefer to go with the first one. It is hard when you become a peer with your parents (i.e. no longer a child but a consenting adult) In one way my Mom and Dad will always be my Mom and Dad but at the same time I must set boundaries and enforce them because I have a family to raise and I am now an individual from them. Ya know what? It sucks! I hate hurting them when I put my foot down but I want to enjoy our relationship and to have a relationship with them there NEEDS to be honesty. Hmmmmm....I wish somethings did not have to be so painful. It was hard enough to get to thirty! I'm gonna go pout or clean or something.......BYE
posted by Cher Maness at 1:23 PM
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I agree and I understand. For years and years I showed my dad respect because of the simple fact hes my father. I let him give me his advice and say all the negative things he wanted. But a couple weeks ago I had had enough, I decided it was high time I stood up to him and MADE him show some me some respect. I told him off. I told him he is never nice, he has nothing nice to say to me, he isn't encouraging, and a whole lot more. Though sometimes talking to my dad is like talking to a child.
I think as children we suck it up and show respect because we don't know any better. But I think there does come a point in time where you deserve to be treated and respected as an adult. They no longer make your decisions, therefor they should learn to respect the decisions you make. I told a friend just the other day, "family should always be there to support each other whether they agree with what that family member is doing or not. They should be supportive unconditionally. Thats why they are family!"
It is hard to stand up to those that you have a lot of respect for. However you also have to have respect for yourself and stand up for yourself, because if you don't, then no one else will, and if you don't respect yourself no one else will.
Sorry I'm exhausted I don't know if any of this makes any sense. But I do agree that there does come a point when respect is due to you as an adult not as a child. There comes a point when you should be treated as an adult not a child.
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